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WLS bullying?!

I just read on a support forum that some people feel bullied by other WLS’ers about the surgery they chose.  Really??  We are going there with each other??  That’s just sad! 


What difference does it make which surgery we chose?  We’re all in the same boat!  We all needed help to lose weight and get healthy again.  I can’t believe we’re picking on each other about which tool we picked to get healthy!

In “Which Tool is Right For You?” I talked about the pro’s and con’s of each surgery.  But neither is “better” than another.  We shouldn’t be putting each other down for the choice we made that was right for us.  That’s a very, very personal choice between patient and doctor, and shouldn’t be up for discussion again if it was the “right” or “wrong” decision. 

Let’s support each other on our journey’s and not put each other down!  This is something we should all support each other on.  That’s the reason we join forums and support groups.  Support groups aren’t for everyone, and that’s fine too, but when push comes to shove, we should all be able to give each other a kind word or a gentle kick in the butt if need be, without saying “you chose the wrong tool”. 



Hello, I'm Kate, and I'm a 10 year gastric bypass post-op. I started this blog, as well as my nutritional website, to help other bariatric surgery post-op's on their journey as well as pre-op's with their decision if bariatric surgery is right for them or not.

2 thoughts on “WLS bullying?!

  1. I’ve experienced bullying in the community but not about what choose of surgery. It’s always about food choices or people saying you didn’t lose enough, or in my case that I had two surgeries. I haven’t experienced bullying in awhile but during the year of 2011, it was extremely bad (and that’s putting it mildly).


  2. It’s a real shame to hear folks experiencing bullying with regard to which bariatric procedure to have ( or frankly for any other reason.) Why is it difficult to understand how much damage bullying causes? Has there not been enough in the press about the negative short term and long term effects of bullying? In my opinion the entire bariatric experience is an extremely personal journey. I found reading through the blog postings to be very helpful and I wouldn’t think about making a judgement based on anything I’ve read. Rather I am thankful that folks are willing to share their experiences both good and bad.

    About myself I am 4 weeks out from having the sleeve procedure done. During the evaluation phase I learned that I had 24 polyps in my stomach and in order to monitor those in the future the sleeve was the most appropriate procedure because it would allow an an endoscopy test periodically (where I went the lap-band was discouraged.) About one week post surgery I had a serious complication in the form of a significant blood clot in the portal vein. I ended up back in the hospital for six days and am now on blood thinners for the next six months. My sleeve is functioning well and yes I’ve made many of the rookie mistakes. Have I had moments of regret ….sure I have but I wake up the next day ready to move forward. I have no complaints …..take a walk through a city hospital or a children’s hospital…..these are where the real problems are. My advice stay focused and positive. Things have a way of working out.

    I welcome any feedback or guidance.



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