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10 tips for family and friends

Even the most well meaning family members and friends can have a hard time being supportive after your bariatric surgery.  Here are 10 tips on what to say (and NOT to say) to someone you care about after their weight loss surgery.

  1. Don’t tell people I had gastric bypass without my permission!  Yes, this includes telling the waiter when we are in a restaurant!
  2. Ask how I am feeling, even if surgery was a few months ago.
  3. Don’t ask what size I’m wearing now.  Unless you’re planning on buying me a new wardrobe, it is not something I want to discuss.
  4. Don’t ask if I’m planning on having “all that skin” removed!
  5. Don’t ask if “that’s all” I’m eating.
  6. Don’t ask “can you eat all that”.  
  7. If you invite me to dinner, and I bring some of my own food, please don’t be offended.
  8. If I have a complication, don’t say “that surgery was a bad idea” or “I told you so”.
  9. Don’t tell me I look sickly, or need to gain some weight back.
  10. Please, don’t compare my weight loss with your cousins/friends/co-workers.  Everyone knows someone who had “that surgery”, but our journey’s are all different.

Better Bariatric



Hello, I'm Kate, and I'm a 10 year gastric bypass post-op. I started this blog, as well as my nutritional website, to help other bariatric surgery post-op's on their journey as well as pre-op's with their decision if bariatric surgery is right for them or not.

One thought on “10 tips for family and friends

  1. That's a good list of suggestions. Weight loss in general, and bariatric surgery specifically, can be touchy. While I might have no problem allowing everyone on earth know I had surgery, someone else might not want it broadcast. Allow the person losing weight make that choice. OH and the skin question. I hate that.


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