To tell or not to tell?
When I was prepping to have my surgery, that was a tough question. I told close friends and family, and some of my then-coworkers. I was in the middle of changing to a new department. The response I got was mixed. Most people were very supportive, but I got a few very unkind comments. “Have you thought of trying a gym?” was one. “You’re not fat enough for that!” was another.
Deciding to tell, who to tell, when to tell that you are have bariatric surgery is a very personal decision. Don’t let negative comments get you down. It’s not “the easy way out” (as some people tried to tell me). Nothing at all about gastric bypass, or any other bariatric surgery, is easy! Some of these comments stem from ignorance. Some, because people can be rude. But there will come a time you’ll have to tell.
I changed jobs two months before my surgery, then disappeared for several weeks to have it done. I told my new boss it was “stomach surgery”, and didn’t get into details. At this point, I didn’t know anyone well enough to feel comfortable telling. However, after I got back, people quickly noticed the rapid weight change, and the fact that I no longer would eat during staff meetings and such, and I started getting stares, and comments. But the longer my “secret” went on, the more awkward it felt to tell. Finally, someone asked me if I had an eating disorder, and I had to come clean. What a relief! Everyone was much more supportive than I thought they would be, and I no longer felt I had to “hide”. Could I do it all over again, I would tell, and not let those two or three rude comments make me afraid everyone would react the same way. And in the long run, your surgery will speak for itself!